Question #31

Dear Answer Girl,
This is Scared. I tried to tell her I didn't want to be her friend anymore. But she didn't listen she won't ever listen. She just told me that she didn't mean all the things she said. She even said, ' I don't want to hear you i don't want you and I don't want to see your UGLY face. Please help.

Dear Scared,
I don't think that was the best move. Maybe you should apologize. That might make things better. From now on, I think you should try to be VERY nice to her and try to include her in things you do when she's around. Maybe after a while she'll stop trying SO hard to be accepted.
Signed,
Answer Girl

Question #30

Dear Answer Girl,
Scared is back. I had another problem with that girl. I went to a fall retreat on the weekend and she was there. She always is " Miss Center of Attention" And that is what she got attention. Well she got so much attention because she blammed almost everything on me. She also made me look bad in front of the whole camp. She declaed me her "Ex best friend" I am very happy. But my mom says I schould feel bad . I don't want to be her friend so Schould I feel bad or keep feeling the same way?
Scared

Dear Scared,
Friends are good things. But there is the saying "to have good friends you have to be a good friend". Obviously your friend is not a good friends...logically she shouldn't deserve to have good friends, like you. But the Christain thing to do would be to reach out to her. Maybe schedule a Bible Study with just her, and ask her to forgive you for anything you might have done to make her mad. Read her verses. Call her your friend. This girl obviously needs a good influence in her life and you can be one. If you don't feel bad...don't feel guilty. Pray and ask God. Remember, he's the one orchastrating this. God put you and your "miss center of attention" together. He has a future and a hope for both of you. I'll be praying for you.
Blessings,
Answer Girl

Question #29

sCARED said...
Dear Answer girl it is ounce again Scared. My birthday party is this Friday ( it is also my real birthday) and I envited that same friend. I only did it because I thought it would be nice. I am trying to be very nice. I am inviting a lot of girls and I want to spend time with all of them. But that one girl wants to hog me and not share me. What schould I do? My mom has talked to her mom though. Please pray that this will go well.

Dear Scared,
I was there at your birthday party and no major diasters happened. Happy for you and hoped you had a great birthday. I will continue to pray for your friend - and for you.
Signed,
The Answer Girl

Today's Praise for Ask Away

Thank you for helping me I proable won't have any more problems till Sunday the day I see her. Thank you very,very much. Your someone I can count on to help me
Thanks,
Scared

Glad to help! (As you remember, I have been helping "scared" for some time now.)
Answer Girl

Penpal Matchup #4

Thanks for Cory. She is sweet and wonderfull.
fanny from Rhode Island

Cory from California said...
you rock answer girl. thanks for fanny and for all you do for people.
Signed,
Cory from California

You are very welcome.
Signing Off,
Answer Girl

Question #28

Dear answer girl,
this is Scared again. Thank you for your great advice. I will try to do what you said but it may not work. I have another problem. it is about the same friend. I don't wan't her to come to my birthday party but I am afraid if I don't invite her she might get mad at me and hate me if I don't. She says I am her only friend she has, but she is booting my out of her life. I try to help but she hates it. She does not now really how to be a great friend. I am very worried about her please help.
Scared

Dear Scared,
If you don't want her to come to your party you have a right not to invite her. At this point you definately need to tell your parents or her parents. This is beyond just 'annoying'. This girl is abusing you with her words and scaring you and it NEEDS to stop. Tell her if you want to be friends then she'll stop being mean. I'm sorry. Ask any other questions if you need any extra help.
Signing Off,
The Answer Girl

Question #27

Dear Answer girl,
A couple months ago I sent in a problem from Scared. It was about camp. Now the same girl who I was talking about in qustion 24 Won't STOP Asking me about coming over.If I ask her to stop asking me to come over she gets really Mad She dragges me into the nursery in church when I am in the middle of talking to my other friends. She won't let me go back to what I was doing, and If I do she says I am dumb or a jerk or some thing hurtful I am very sared and I don't know what to do. Please help me again. Your advice was great about camp
Thank you scared!

Dear Scared,
Happy to help again but very sorry this friend keeps bothering you. Tell her "Listen, if you want to be my friend this is not the way you should do it. In fact, when you do this it just makes me upset and angry. Please don't pull me away from my friends. If you keep calling me names and dragging me around I will tell my parents. I'm sorry, but I just don't understand what you want. It is my choice to have other friends. I don't belong to you!" This girl is very rude and I think that you need to tell her parents or just plain ignore her. I am so sorry you have to deal with this! If you need more advice just ask another question.
Signed
The Answer Girl